[A while ago I wrote a speech that was to be delivered on stage. I never gave the speech. The speech turned into Success Rebel. You can read the entire speech below.]
What do you do if you want to escape mediocrity and attain massive success?
You become a professional rebel.
What’s the first step towards your new career as a professional rebel?
Go with your gut.
Always trust your gut instinct because your gut always knows what you want out of life.
What do you want?
I can’t answer that. Only you can answer that and I can only generalize.
But asking someone else what you want because you don’t know is a cop-out and a lie.
You know what you want.
The average person is scared to say what they want.
Because being extraordinary is outside the real of possibility for ordinary people.
Because what you want falls outside the normal paradigm.
Go to school, bunker down, get a job, work hard and retire.
No one really wants that, you’ve been told that and you’ve been sold that. And you’ve been sold well.
So people are afraid of what they really want…
What do they really want?
Everyone wants freedom.
People email me from all across the world – from India to the US, Singapore to Germany – they all say the same thing…
“I want freedom”
Where does freedom come from?
You don’t get freedom working at a job. The way you create freedom is by being a rebel.
What are the qualities of a rebel?
A rebel might be afraid to go outside of the herd, but a rebel will do it anyway.
A rebel WILL do something out of the ordinary.
A rebel will act in the face of fear and do what others have said they can’t do or is impossible.
The rebel knows nothing is impossible.
See, everybody feels fear when they do something out of the ordinary. That’s why most people are afraid to admit what they want.
Because they feel fear.
As a child did you know what you wanted?
I knew what I wanted to be when I was a child.
I wanted to be a writer, I wanted to be a musician, I wanted to be an artist.
So what did I do when I grew up?
I went to school and got a job.
Then I lied about what I wanted.
I could admit what I wanted when I was 12 but when I was 25 I’d already made bad decisions, so I couldn’t admit it anymore.
Because to admit what I wanted would be to admit that I had failed.
It’s hard to admit that you have failed and wasted precious time.
Admitting to wasted time is painful.
But it’s more painful to waste more time.
First you have to admit that you have a problem.
Hi my name is Johnny Worker Bee, and I do what everybody tells me I should do. I don’t follow my gut instinct.
Welcome to the real world, Johnny.
Now that you’ve admitted you have a problem, know this…
You don’t have to be dissatisfied with your life.
Even if you’re 1% dissatisfied with the way your life is going, you don’t have to be dissatisfied.
You can change it.
If you don’t change it, it’s likely because of fear.
To fix that 1% dissatisfaction takes a tremendous act of courage. An act of rebellion.
It’s been said that the only thing that separates a coward and a hero is action.
Both the coward and the hero feel fear. The coward runs away and the hero moves forward in spite of the fear.
One recoils, and the other moves forward.
When you look at other people, superstars, millionaires, heroes, friends who are successful it looks like they don’t feel fear.
But the story you see is a very small part of what’s going on on the inside.
Successful people are people just like you and me. They feel the exact same emotions as you and I.
They just act in spite of it. They feel the fear but they charge forward.
I often get asked the question, “what do I want” or “what should I do?”
Asking these types of questions gives you an excuse to not take action. It’s an excuse to wait.
You can say…
I didn’t get an answer or a confirmation so I don’t have to act right now, I can just wait.
But you know what you want. You know it in your gut and you’re stalling.
Maybe you can’t or maybe you won’t put it into words what you want so you think it’s the wrong thing to want.
Instead, you think about it more and more, trying to decide if it’s the right thing or the wrong thing to want, trying to make a rational decision.
But you already know in your gut. You’ve already made the decision. You know exactly what you want!
If you still can’t make a decision, flip a coin
Heads you follow your gut instinct, tails you follow your rational life plan.
When the coin was in the air were you hoping for heads or tails?
It doesn’t matter if the coin lands on heads or tails, while the coin was in the air you know what you were hoping for.
You know what you wanted!
You can play mind games, you can list the pros and cons, you can try and convince yourself as long as you want.
But that’s just a way to waste more time.
You can choose to be happy and go with your gut, or you can choose to be mediocre and unhappy and go with your analytical, practical life designs.
When your family and friends ask you what you want from life, your brain starts turning and thinking of reasons why you shouldn’t want what you want – and why you should want that they tell you.
In your gut you know what you want, but out of your mouth comes a reasonable lie to fool people.
You lie so you fit in better, so you’re not ostracized.
Why do people do that?
It’s like we feel like we have to justify our decisions to the outside world.
Well, you think you have to justify it…
…but you don’t.
You don’t even have to tell anybody what you want.
That’s the secret.
Just tell yourself.
Just admit quietly to yourself what you want to do and then work everyday towards that goal.
You don’t have to justify it to your family, you don’t have to justify it to your friends.
It’s in your gut. It’s there. It’s gonna be there for a lifetime.
And the reality is, if you’re gonna be successful, you gotta go with your gut.
You might be ostracized for a little while.
In fact, expect it.
You’ll be ostracized. After you’ve become a success you’ll be worshiped for being different.
You’ll be worshiped for being an innovator.
Before, you were just a weirdo.
They will have said…
Oh you can’t have that, nobody wants that. Just follow the plan. We’ve laid out a plan for you, just follow the plan. The plan is there for you, just follow the plan.
No, I don’t want to follow the plan.
They’ll reply, stunned….
What? You have to follow that!!!
Ten years later they’ll say…
Did you know that contrary investors are the only ones that make money?
You read countless stories about how people had a hunch, a gut feeling about something that ended up making them a lot of money.
They took that hunch, that gut feeling, that idea and they showed it to their friends and colleagues for more data, advice and confirmation.
Their friends all said the same thing…
That’s a terrible idea. Look at the numbers. It’s never been done before and it won’t work.
But they don’t know what you know.
Nobody knows what’s in your head except for you. Nobody knows your intuition except for you.
Nobody else in the world feels it.
If you have the gut feeling, you have the duty to follow it.
You know what you want out of life.
So this isn’t how to figure out what you want out of life.
Because you already know.
This is how to admit to yourself what you want out of life.
How to admit that you want freedom…power…success…more
The majority of people make a career decision based on analytical data.
You probably made a life decision based on your analytical side.
Based on what your parents, teachers and peers told you was the most rational decision.
You have had an over-reliance on analytical data.
Too bad but analytical data isn’t the key to life happiness and success.
It takes a long time to come up with an analytical decision but your gut takes everything into account instantly. Your gut decides in an instant
Intuition is what can actually balance everything.
It can take your brain days, weeks, months, even years to make a decision.
But your gut knows immediately.
The decision’s already made!
All you’re doing is coming up with reasons why you shouldn’t do it.
You don’t have to agonize over a decision at all.
It’s already in you.
“What do I want in life?”
You can stop lying and stop asking that question.
A better question to ask is….
How do you find your purpose in life?
This might hurt: but you don’t need to find your life purpose. It’s already there.
All that time wasted.
And your life purpose was already there waiting for you to pick it up.
And if you aren’t following your life purpose right now, you’ve been wasting all this time.
It hurts to hear, but the truth usually does.
You’ve known what you wanted your entire life since you were 12 years old and able to think – you’ve had a gut feeling about what you wanted to do with your life.
Nobody had a gut feeling at 10 that they wanted to be an accountant or a dentist.
It doesn’t really matter WHAT you want!
Some people want one thing, some want another.
The point is, you know what you want in your gut.
You might want power. You might want no power and you’re afraid of that.
Maybe you want all the power in the world.
Maybe you want all the power taken away from you and you never want to make a decision again.
But whatever you want from life, you can feel it, whatever it is.
Most of us are afraid to say it – afraid to act on it.
Listen, I’m glad there are garbagemen. I’m glad there are accountants.
But on his deathbed, the dentist isn’t going to say to himself…
“Gee, I’m so glad I never did what I really wanted to do. I’m so glad I never fulfilled my destiny”.
Hey, I’m glad dentists didn’t follow their guts, otherwise my teeth would be yellow.
But is that what you really want?
They say the number one regret on your deathbed is not following your dreams
Do you know what your dreams are? Your gut feeling. Your intuition.
You can look at a thousand books to “vision plan” and other bullshit, but you already have a clear vision of how you want to be.
You have a vision of exactly how you want to see yourself. Everybody does.
Maybe you think you aren’t good enough to get it.
Maybe you think you don’t deserve it.
But like Clint Eastwood said, “Deserve’s got nothin’ to do with it”.
A lot of us have a sense of insufficiency
Because we think we can’t get what we want, we go with option B. The safe choice.
Go to a good school. Be an accountant. Get a house.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t own a house. Own ten houses if you want. If that’s what your gut is telling you.
But I have a gut feeling you don’t want a mortgage on a house, so you can work real hard and spend all your money just to fill it with stuff and objects that mean nothing.
I have a gut feeling I’m correct about that.
And I have another gut feeling.
I have a gut feeling most people in the world are extremely unhappy.
It’s hard to even admit to unhappiness.
But here’s the big secret….
You don’t have to admit it to other people. You just have to admit it to yourself.
You’re the only one that counts.
You only need to be 100% honest with yourself. No therapist required.
If you want to get what you want out of life – what others call “following your dreams” – you’ve got to come to grips with what your dreams are.
You have to admit them to yourself what they are.
You don’t have to scream it at the top of your lungs (though it helps).
You just have to know in your head that…
“Yes, I do want this. I’m not going to be ashamed of it anymore. I’m not going to pretend it’s not what I want. I’m not going to lie to myself and say it’s not what I want.”
“This IS what I want.”
What about status?
Are you afraid of taking a drop in status? Afraid that if you follow your gut you won’t get the prestige you think you deserve?
Here’s the funny thing about status, the rebels are at the top of the status pyramid.
You think that if you drop everything and follow your dreams you’re going to take a drop in social status.
But are you really?
Maybe momentarily, while you’re struggling and broke.
But in the future people are going to look up to you and say…
“Wow, how did you do it? I always wanted to do what you do I could just never find the courage.”
“I just had bills to pay.” they’ll say while looking up at you.
If you fully own your decision, you will never even notice a drop in status because you’re going to be busy. You’re going to be busy working and fulfilling your destiny in life.
You’ve already ran from your destiny like Jonah, now you’re going to be busy running back to your destiny and correcting the wrong that you have done to yourself.
Here’s a quick tip to beat procrastination forever
Don’t do work you hate.
Do something you want to do. Something that drives you.
When you do something you like to do there isn’t enough time in the day to accomplish it all.
When you do work you hate to do the hours drag.
So fill up your days with
- Work that you enjoy doing and
- Work that gets you further towards your real goal
You’ve heard of the 80/20 rule?
Here’s the new 80/20 rule.
Spend 80% of the time doing things you love to do and spend 20% of your time doing the rest.
Then watch the success, the money, the status – watch all of it – come to you like you’re a magnet for success.
Now you’ve followed your gut instinct instead of “the plan”.
Now you’re living your destiny.
You’re a professional rebel.
Ain’t it great?