If you want to be in control of your relationship that means you need to take control.
If you want to be the leader you have to lead.
If you are the top dog then you have to be responsible for the ones below you.
I’m not talking about getting married and taking on step-children, I’m talking about taking responsibility as the decision-maker.
These are my decisions and I stand behind them. This is how we will live. You will do as I say. If you don’t like those rules you can leave. If you stay this is how it is and I will be responsible for our life.
Often men will tell me they don’t like “clingy” women.
They’ll say “she’s too clingy” and show me messages on their phones:
“Where are you? Who are you with? When are you coming home?”
That’s not a message from a clingy woman, that’s a message from a controlling woman.
When men say they don’t like clingy women what they mean is that they don’t like controlling women.
They don’t like it when women control and dictate their actions and behavior.
The men who complain about clingy women don’t want to be in control of a woman. They don’t want to be the leader.
If she tries to control you it means you don’t have control of her.
But you can’t have it both ways.
You’re a leader or you’re her punk and there aren’t any two ways about it.